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[QUOTE]On October 09 2011 17:42 Tommie wrote:
[QUOTE]On October 09 2011 17:39 Isaac wrote:
how does one find a date outside of high school, or college?
I met my lady through work. I work at a hotel, trust me once you get to work you can find PLENTY of FINE women!![/QUOTE]
It's all about that job. When I was a student I used to work part-time as a janitor. Had babes calling me ALL the time. Soon as I stopped - the calls stopped. Or so I think - maybe it's because I was more serious with this one girl and the others wanted attention. Go figure...
On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote:
I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still ....
My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck?
kiss her. kiss her early. if she doesnt go for it, just move on.
I'm in my mid 20's now and basically every girl I develop an interest in is already taken, its getting silly haha. However I find I enjoy having the time and the simplicity of life that I see my friends not having who are constantly in and out of relationships. So I'm not that worried about it really and in no rush, seems like a lot of work and heartache to me.
I have a few life goals that don't really sit well with having a long term relationship either (I want to travel and live overseas in a few different countries) so I guess I just don't try hard at getting one.
Should probably stay away from girls and just dedicate self to SC2 training...
It happened in grade 8.
It didn't go so great.
She even showed up late.
Sorry, it rhymed in my mind and that doesn't happen all the time.
Anyways it was in the park and it was boring. She brought her friend and they just talked amongst themselves for the most part (everything in the rhyme is true as well).
21 now, no date since. Honestly don't feel like the effort would be worth it.
on the other hand I can also vouch that it is incredibly hard to find someone who really interest you. 99% of women are just not suitable for you and appear as interesting as the common tree. you have to get lucky (pun intended)...
I can only imagine women have the same troubles. so if something doesn't work out, it's most likely not your fault, it's just not a fit.
ps: I feel like I was lucky (Oktoberfest!) and am dating a beautiful student from austria next week. wish me luck
Just like a month ago I met a girl though and we're now officially in a relationship. So lately my luck has turned the other way and I'm really thankful for that!
On October 09 2011 15:55 Malstriks wrote:
just ended 2 year relationship :'( single and ready to mingle? slowly getting there
exact same as this, except 4 years
friends are super supportive which makes things better, pretty sure i'll be forever alone now though, and not one of those sexually frustrated nergins that hates every female on the internet though ^^
On October 09 2011 17:23 Kenshin_915 wrote:
Warning, long story incoming, don't read if you don't want to invest some time into reading it. It is.. Ironic through to say the least.
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I've only had one "Dating" experience really, and it turned out pretty interesting. I was interested in this girl since I was in grade 8, so probably when I was 14. I mean really into her, even though I was young, it's the only time I've ever experienced the "Love at first sight" thing (I'll just call my love interest "The girl" from now on). So over my high school years I never talked to The girl. I'm pretty shy by nature and it doesn't help that I was a complete loner all through high school. I had a few friends but meh, never hung out with them a lot. So fast forward to after graduation, I would say I was about 18. I've never seen her really all this time, I had all through high school but once again I never did anything back them. A few months after grad my older brother starts dating her sister, and as I hung out with my brother at his place every now and then I got to know my brothers Girlfriend (The Girls sister naturally) a bit better. So fate decides to step in, and of course The Girl also hangs out with her sister too, and because my Older brother and his girlfriend are living in his apartment, The Girl ends up going over there frequently. So the inevitable thing happens and we get to know each other better, but as I find out she's already going out with someone. So I bide my time, we see each other when the occasion comes up that we hang out at my brothers place at the same time, and things are fine. We become friends (Not really close though) and things are fine. Remember that all this time I'm pretty much in love with The Girl, and my feelings are only reinforced as I get to know her better. We have a lot in common, we have similar personalities, likes etc. So some months down the road I find out through Facebook status updates/my brother/her sister that shes having a shitty time in her current relationship. It turns out the guy shes dating is pretty much crazy. I won't go into a lot of details but hes really controlling, would get physical with her (Not hitting but he would grab her and shit) and generally had a really unpleasant douchebag inauthentic personality. So BAM, one day the inevitable break up occurs, and even me the shy guy sees the golden opportunities. So I start talking to her a lot more (Mostly through FB) and we see each other sometime and as time passes we get a bit closer and closer. One big factor that made this possible was that I was comforting her a lot about her breakup, and was one of the few people she could vent to and spill feelings on that she wouldn't with others (She was also very shy. I also realizing this was a mistake in a way after).
She needed it too, because Mr Douche was starting to stalk her after the breakup. He would drive past her house, leave her literally hundred of text messages and phone messages. Couldn't break his obsession I guess. So as we get to talking more, and I help her with her life problems we become pretty good friends. Then one day as I'm talking to her online as I usually do she says she wants to tell me something. She tells me she thinks she likes me. WHAT THE FUCKING SHIT! And I mean that in a good way too. It was one of the best and most emotional moments in my entire life, I was literally in shock and shaking that she had just seemingly admitted this to me (Remember that I've liked her intensely for 4 or 5 years by this point) I suppose there where a few hints she dropped over the past few weeks, but I didn't think she would just tell me. So I tell her I like her back, and she acts surprised and whatnot, we talk a bit more then I pack it in for the night. The next morning I have a message on my FB profile from her. She tells me that she "isn't sure" if she really does like me or not, and that she hoped she didn't give me the wrong impression, but that at the time she felt like she needed to tell me. So I brush it off as not a big deal, I mean what the hell, I have to respect her feelings. So we continue talking over the next few weeks and eventually she does admit that indeed she likes me, so we keep the talking going, and I see her sometimes over the next month or so. But as time goes on and we continue talking she seems to put less and less effort into our conversations, it would just sound like she was bored no matter what I said. And strangely she gives every indications she still likes me, especially when I see her too. Eventually on one fateful day in the morning I talk to her for a bit to say hi and she tells me she needs to tell me something important. So she drops the bomb and tells me plainly she doesn't like me. And from the ecstasy I fist experienced with her first admission her second sends me to the pits of hell. It's the worst feeling I've ever felt, it's indescribably crushing, a magnificent and all encompassing atom bomb of.. pain?
Not really any way to describe it. I'm in a state of shock for the rest of the day. I would like to note that things where more intricate than this too, my shitty writing can't capture all the nuances of life. It was more grand, dramatic and emotionally involving than described. So after she tells me I don't really know what to do, so I try to take the “Well I'll still be your friend” route. But it just doesn't work out, and we talk less and less. To add to the humiliation too I talked to her a few times after missing too much sleep, and regaled contrived reasons I'd come up with about what I did wrong, how I was sorry etc etc. That just adds to the awkwardness so I just say screw it and stop talking to her. It turns out too that we didn't have as much in common as I thought originally, so we've ended up getting into stupid fights about things for no reason other than personality differences. I'm still a bit bitter about it to this day, and still don't really talk to her at all. We just don't get along that well and all that's happened between us is too much of a wall to climb, so we just avoid each other. Want to know the funny thing though? The thing that will make all this stupid story worth it? The thing that ended up making me laugh my ass off when I finally saw it coming? In the beginning of the story I mentioned her older sister and my older brother where dating right? Well they got on awesomely and will be getting married this month. She will become my relative (step sister?) when that happens.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH. Oh fate, ye are a cruel mistress.
Yey 50 posts.
Lol life man, good story, similar to my story... But hey, at least it worked out for the best in the end!
On October 09 2011 17:24 dmnum wrote:
okay I think I've got a experience to share here:
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I went to this friend of mine's birthday and there I met two of her friends(sisters, gonna call them girl 1 and girl 2). So, I'm chatting with girl 1 with absolutely no second intentions, but we end up talking for a lot time. Then some guy who usually hooks up with her gets there and while she's blowing him off I'm engaging in conversation with her sister(girl 2). I find girl 2 very attractive and nice, so I start thinking if I should make a move. But my first friend(the birthday girl) starts feeling sick and we take off. The next day meet her in class and she starts talking to me about how girl 1 liked me and how I should call her, etc. Turns out my friends though I was also into this girl and started talking to her about me. Well, I explain that I was actually into her sister(girl 2) and she tells that girl 2 has only had 1 boyfriend and that was like, 3 years ago. I usually like challenge, and I liked the girl so I think why not. Well, I ask her out for 1 month and she always says yes but ends up cancelling it. I get pissed so I ask her directly if she likes me, and she says that she doesn't know. Well, I take that as a no and move on. 1 week later she comes to talk to me, all friendly and nice. I start thinking she's into me and only after another month I realize that she's not into me, she's just into inflating her ego with the attention I give her. Now I realize that her sister(girl 1) is a pretty nice girl, but I'm not going to make a move on her after trying to get her sister.
Fucken A man, your story sounds like one of my best friend's bullshit "love?" stories. I feel your pain on that... Mind fucking my friend for the thrill of it, it seems rather annoying to me. Best advice is to not talk to her ever again.
On October 09 2011 17:57 MaestrO_ wrote:
had a girlfriend for about 1 year, she cheated on me twice, which made me emotionally numb for pretty much the rest of high school and beginning of college. Started getting back into things, got rejected by this cute girl i like in my french class @ College. Felt bad and good at the same time.
Yeah women tend to make you emotionally numb, I was there for the first couple of years of college, what I learned from it is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you just gotta move on.
On October 09 2011 18:24 darkscream wrote:
I just wanna fuck them, but they always fall in love after.
It's a real pain tbh. Even if you mutually agree its casual, they always find a way to mush up a good thing.
Amen to that brother.
I don't wanna sound like a douche or anything, but I've always found it easier to hit it and quit it.
In the truest sense of it all, I have to focus on school, job, extracurriculars, hobbies (ie: SC and cars), family, etc. I just want a girl for a quick fling and then get on with my life.
I guess it would only be fair if I shared a story with everyone, so here goes:
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You know what, life's not fair, I don't need to share anything with anyone! lol
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But I will say this, don't ever let a girl change who you are, I say this ironically because I was your typical shy nice guy that always ended up in the 'just friends' position.
Well, I became that asshole, that one night stand douche bag, the say anything to get into your pants guy. And you know what, its gotten me way more pussy than that nice guy I once was. Girls wanna play dirty, well my fellow Team Liquiders you gotta counter attack, that DT shrine just finsihed. gg