My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck?
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almerr
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My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck? | ||
babo213
United States0 Posts
On October 09 2011 15:47 Mr. Nefarious wrote: Unfortunately, most of the better looking girls are extremely selfish and vain. Drop these girls, looks are only fun for the first month. Find the girl you find attractive emotionally as well as physically, despite what other people might say or think about her. That may be true about better looking girls being selfish and vain, but it's all on a case by case basis. However, I do agree with you on the looks are only fun for a short period of time. If you want a serious relationship it's best to look for an emotional connection rather than just physical. Personally I find that if I connect with a girl she becomes even more attractive than she was initially. And it also works the other way around. | ||
Emon_
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On October 09 2011 16:10 NathanSC wrote: Hmm. I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a bipolar woman who has an estranged husband she would go back to every so often then come back to me. Easily the worst relationship I've ever had the pleasure of experiencing. Tell you the truth, I don't feel bad about being single after reading that ^^ | ||
Ancestral
United States0 Posts
On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote: I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still .... My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck? I have the opposite problem. I can't meet girls without fooling around / ruining any possible "friendship" and making it weird. Currently in a relationship though. Shit's cash, 30% of the time. | ||
Reedjr
United States0 Posts
On October 09 2011 16:05 Malstriks wrote: bro, i'm with you there. threesome with esports? YOU'RE RUINING ESPORTS (for other men). I'm single and looking. Most of my actual relationships end quite amicably and I'm very good friends with several of my exes. Not all, of course. That'd be weird. I do have one smaller bad date story: + Show Spoiler + I was on a second date with a girl who I met through work. She had quite the crush on me and the first date actually went pretty well - a long walk around the lake and then back to my place. The second date was at a coffee shop a few blocks from my apartment. We get to talking and it starts becoming clear that she's a bit immature for her age. She was mid-20's, and she boldly announced that she didn't have the energy or responsibility for a full-time job. She then related to me a story about how her mother controls every aspect of her life, so much so that she cannot even have a lock on her bedroom door. And then, in the same vein, she tells me that she has a really big secret, and whispers in my ear "I'm not a virgin." Uh, yeah. Good for you, but that's not exactly a secret when you're coming up on 30. I politely try to break it off, but end up having to fake being sick as she was following me back to my apartment (she lived in the complete opposite direction). | ||
Probe1
United States6 Posts
On October 09 2011 16:17 Reedjr wrote: YOU'RE RUINING ESPORTS (for other men). I'm single and looking. Most of my actual relationships end quite amicably and I'm very good friends with several of my exes. Not all, of course. That'd be weird. I do have one smaller bad date story: + Show Spoiler + I was on a second date with a girl who I met through work. She had quite the crush on me and the first date actually went pretty well - a long walk around the lake and then back to my place. The second date was at a coffee shop a few blocks from my apartment. We get to talking and it starts becoming clear that she's a bit immature for her age. She was mid-20's, and she boldly announced that she didn't have the energy or responsibility for a full-time job. She then related to me a story about how her mother controls every aspect of her life, so much so that she cannot even have a lock on her bedroom door. And then, in the same vein, she tells me that she has a really big secret, and whispers in my ear "I'm not a virgin." Uh, yeah. Good for you, but that's not exactly a secret when you're coming up on 30. I politely try to break it off, but end up having to fake being sick as she was following me back to my apartment (she lived in the complete opposite direction). Ugh i've been on a hell date before. First date goes good.. next date she casually mentions her father is extremely strict and is also the warden at the local prison and do I know where we can get some weed. Noty brb left my oven on fire. zoom zoom zoom~~ No seriously that sounds terrible. Like severe, get help terrible  I feel bad just reading it. | ||
exShikari
Australia0 Posts
On October 09 2011 15:54 Wasteweiser wrote: Sounds like you have a common problem of dating someone your not even remotely intrested in. i've had the problem for awhile but its a learning experience. I'd say this, your talking about highschool? you're young bro who cares about dating someone, just go out and have some fun. I've been hell bent over the same girl for 3 years and all i got was misery from her but in reality im to young to try worry about that shit to begin with. + Show Spoiler + I'll share 2 bad experiences with women, there are more that aren't so bad and kinda funny how shittty my luck is but thats ok lol. My last girlfriend I had was completely broke because she never felt like working so i ended up spending money and driving her places, which was fine because i wouldn't spend jack shit and hardly hang out with her as a result. She slowly makes minor signs that she isn't really intrested but i dont pick up on them because they're very sudtle.(we chilled a lot in my car listening to music watching planes fly in at the airport parking lot, so one day she said she likes being in my car listening to music, but never said she liked being with me doing it.) One night i pick her up and she is drunk as shit, im mad because she has an inflammed liver and drinking is the last thing she should be doing. We dont say much and she goes home without a kiss. Few days she leaves me with a 5 letter text, i say fine guess its goodbye. I find out through facebook that she adds her bestfriend as a boyfriend a few days later. im pissed. i find out a little bit later from friends that she was seeing him while we were dating, what the fuck. Naturally i just want to call up my friends and get both those fuckers beat up but i held back. Next story is the girl i knew and liked for 3 years. This girl is really special to me because we are so very similar its scary. when i first met her she was dating someone (a person i'd never want to cross) but she flirted with me hardcore about how our kids could look ect... I didnt even know she was dating someone so i thought about asking her out until it slipped out one day. She apologized and i was left confused. In the last 3 years i've made a lot of progress with women so i couldn't exactly make sense of the fact that iwas being teased. fast forward about 3 years about 3 months ago. We had a huge fight because i got pissed of with her disrespecting me, lasts about a year. right before we got into that fight she had broken up with her bf and was single ever since. (suprising since she bf hoped for almost 7 years) Her birthday arrives and she invites me to come. All my old feelings come back and i say yes. It was a simple outting to the movies with her friends so we didnt talk much, but i was dettermined to make my last attempt to start a relationship. In the past i made a habit of beating around the bush and never really asking a girl out which i slowly cured over in the year i was appart from her. We're both big on electronic dance music and got to raves often but this time around i started taking her hands and dancing with her. She loved it. Unfortunately she started doing some of those things with other guys when i wasn't around to. I was annoyed but not done yet. Then i took her out swimming, literally went to her house and told her we're swimming. She was reistant and didnt want to but i got her there. She had a blast i was throwing her around int he water, the whole speal. Everytime i talked to her afterwards she wanted to go swimming. That very day i told her that i liked her for the full 3 years i met her and i've never liked a girl like you, that i wanted to start something with you. Her response? "damnit why didnt you say something sooner? I just started dating someone." "damnit damnit damnit" I'm not mad im actually happy, i didnt expect a yes at all, i kind've expected a no, but i got hope. I knew the guy she just started dating and i knew it was doomed for failure so this gave it hope. Ofcourse i find out 2 days later from her best friend she broke up with him. I'm all excited waiting for her to call. She never does. I quite positive the girl i liked didnt tell her best friend about me because we all know eachother and she usually doesnt share information about guys, so im quite sure it wasnt a game plan to get me to ask again. The next time i see her im out with her best friend and we met up with her at some guys house, shes drunk and cuddling with this dude. I'm fucking pisssed right the fuck off. me and her friend leave after watching a movie leaving her there drunk with this fucking guy. Im really pissed off, but it gets wierder. a week later we go to two raves back to back. I hardly even acknowledge her the first night and she's with her ex boyfriend the whole night, not looking like shes having a good time. I'm sober this night because im driving for my best friend that night. the second night me and my best friend switch roles so he drives i drink. Then it gets wierd. She starts taking shots with me with her friends, ex bf, ect.. and eventually out of the blue she just grabs my hand and pulls me to the dance floor. Im drunk and just say fuck it lets have some fun. We get to the front of the rave close to the dj (ferry corsten yeye) and just start grinding. My mind was completely blown at that point, not that she was the best girl that i grinded with, but because this is the first time i've ever seen her grind in the whole 3 years i knew her. She didnt even do it with her boyfriends. She's grabbing my neck, im sliding my hands up her legs, shes doing the same. Even wasted i felt so much emotion. Finally the night comes to an end with us dancing and the dj closes it up. She does something stupid and books it back stage to try and get an autograph, idont risk it because the bouncers wouldn't hesitate to beat my ass and let her go. Meet up with her out side and she pretends like nothing happened. We've talked once since and it wasn't really about much other then what we've been doing. she doesnt invite me out anywhere and doesnt really talk to me. I feel that i already put myself out there and she just shit all over me so im trying to completely tie it off. Jesus that was a long write. I got tons of other minor ones about bad my luck is with picking up women but w/e lol If you're just friends there's no reason to be getting pissed off if you're out clubbing and she's hanging with her ex. Also, I don't know the exact dtails obviously so don't get mad, but she's not shitting on you by just dancing with you and then acting like it didn't happen, it's what happens on dance floors. You think too much. Just ask her out. What's the worst that could happen? | ||
Psyonic_Reaver
United States0 Posts
Uhh. wtf... Why would you keep dating me for a month if it was only a dare/joke??? Why go that far? I felt sorry for you. Woman are pieces of shit. On October 09 2011 16:24 Skullflower wrote: I can't maintain a relationship worth a damn. After my last relationship I just want to get my life together and figure out what the fuck I'm doing with my life... TRUTH | ||
Bleak
Turkey244 Posts
After that, my first 2 years of universty was full of getting used to the uni. system and also losing weight. My 3rd year, I was in a massive depression so I couldn't really get into a relationship even if I wanted to. Not being in a relationship and not being responsible enough for my life were two reasons. I just plowed through my exams, courses and tried to relieve myself of my worries in summer. Now is my last year, and there are a couple girls I'm interested in, but at this point I just don't know if I can do it. I'm feeling inexperienced, and even if I go on a (this time) real date, me being a bronze leaguer in dating wouldn't really work I think. Nevertheless, I know I'll meet someone in some time, but I really don't know when. | ||
exShikari
Australia0 Posts
On October 09 2011 16:24 Psyonic_Reaver wrote: I dated a woman for about a month and I thought everything was actually going ok then suddenly one day she breaks up with me by saying she only went out with me on a dare/joke from her coworkers and that now she's too embarrassed to keep dating me. Uhh. wtf... Why would you keep dating me for a month if it was only a dare/joke??? Why go that far? I felt sorry for you. Woman are pieces of shit. And guys don't do the same thing? ot: These days most people are better off having open relationships while you're younger. Or fuck it go travelling, enjoy yourself, others and see the world. Relationships can wait until you're ready to settle down and start your adult life proper. | ||
Kid-Fox
Canada0 Posts
Apparently I've inherited good looks from my mother's side of the family though... so hopefully I can get lucky in college/uni. ahh who am I kidding? I'm only looking at appearances! I'll only watch if the commentator is good. | ||
Fir3fly
Australia0 Posts
How can you know what you want in a person, when you haven't even discovered yourself yet. (i think day[9] said something like this once aswel.) --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- oh man, i've only had two relationships so far and they've both been horrible. first one: i was in year 9 at the time, i was really nerdy and i felt "lonely" in a way, like i really wanted to have a girlfriend and just someone to love ( not trying to sound douchy, i dont know why i felt this way moreso than other kids, i had a weird childhood so it probably had something to do with it ) Then all of a sudden i find this chick likes me, and i start freaking out and "go out" ( which, in year 10, doesnt mean anything but holding hands at school) so we were "dating" and i didnt know what the fuck i was doing, i tried to do all the right things and she "enjoyed" it. but she never really gave anything back (for instance, i would be the first one to start a hug, etc) and so i always felt like she "gave up" on me. but she assured me that she didnt and that she was a little shy. i was the king of shy at this point. and blah blah blah, basically it lasted for abuot a year and a half without anything but awkward hugs and us shying away from each other. then she does get sick of me, calls it off. im heartbroken, one of my friends "sneaks in" without telling me and they go off and have wild sex within the first week. ( and douchiness on both parts, i was heartbroken, they were rubbing it in, etcetc) so THAT was fucked. i had no idea what the shit i was meant to do. then the next girl: i found through starcraft actually. this was in year 11 going on 12. i bought a magazine in to read and she saw the starcraft 2 bit on the front. so we started talking about things and getting a bit friendly. and then i (again, shyly) asked if she wanted to go to the movies or something (i actually knew what "going out" meant now) she agreed. but i dont think we were on the same page :3 during the movie i was slowly creeping my hand over (because im retarded and fucking creepy) but she held my hand, then we went around and had a milkshake around town. was pretty fun. but then i missed my bus home and asked for a lift home ( i live out of town) which was awkward as fuck. so we were "dating" and this time, i told myself, that i wasnt going to be shy and fuck this up again. so i tried my hardest to be boyfriendly. which was a huge mistake, i felt that i "rushed" it, where shes all cute and nerdy and not that type of girl. i actually realised the damage ive done, she wasnt really interested in me at all and i could see it. so i just broke it up. we left on much better terms than my first girlfriend. I suppose thats all i really have on the subject. my only two girlfriends and i fucked them both up. i dont really know what to think about it because i dont want to say that im a completely bad "boyfriend" ( girl 1 was retarded (literally) and girl 2 was oblivious that we were dating half the time) but yeah. im hoping girl #3 is good ( i over shot, under shot, now ill get it just right :3) but unfortunately its going to have to wait a bit seeming 1. my town sucks and i dont go out and 2. i work with old people so theres nothing at work. but i am moving to Brisbane soon, so that should be good ^^ | ||
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