Llama was very obnoxious in the chat her bf posted and escalated every step of the way. Grant acted like a childish asshole twice in the story, but she looked for confrontation and went to authorities at every opportunity instead of looking for compromise or dialogue and I'm not surprised her chances diminished after that.
The grabbing at the wrist thing is being obnoxious, but it's nothing more than that and he apologized. I don't get how that is a big deal.
Overall this all is pretty foggy and precisely the type of thing where everyone jumps on a bandwagon and judges someone because it's easy to do. That Grant is irresponsible, childish and occasionally obnoxious can't be news to anyone. That he's a malicious rapist is something even the person who made the case wasn't sure enough of to express. Everything else is a whole lot of noise about nothing.